To my Sons, Aiden and Seth

Seth and Aiden, I hope one day you stumble upon this and read it, and realize that what you have gone through is not your fault. You were always both good kids, and you are both growing into strong and intelligent young men with good hearts, and I am very proud of you. My door and my heart will always be open to both of you. I am also sorry for the mistakes I have made along the way, and I hope you can find peace and healing from the hurts I have caused by failing you.

Remember to be kind and forgiving to each other, and always encourage each other. You are brothers, and you are both my sons, no matter what.  I love you both – yesterday, today, and always.

With love from your father



Our family gathered at Scott’s house in New Hampshire

This is the family that is patiently waiting to be back in your life again. You already know most of them.  They are:

(Top row)  Me, Uncle Willey, cousin Ernestine, your Uncle Scott, Julie, cousin Barbara, your sister Haley, and Grandpa John

(Bottom row) Grandma Jane, cousin Thomas, Panda (the dog), your Aunt Amanda (who will soon be giving birth to another cousin), and Aunt Trice.


5 thoughts on “To my Sons, Aiden and Seth

  1. laurelwolfelives

    This is so very sad. I have four children, who ironically live in Orlando, and they no longer speak to me. You are far more gracious than I am. So sad when the children you raised and sacrificed so much for…turn their backs on you.
    I truly hope you hear from them.

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    1. Walter Singleton Post author

      Thank you for saying so. Their separation from me was not my choice, but it was not theirs either. They were told horrible lies about me by someone they trust, and cut off from anyone who might tell them a different story. They have been manipulated through fear and isolation. They are victims, and I do not hold it against them. I want so badly to reach out to them, and to help them to feel safe again, like a father should. One day that may happen. I hope so.

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      1. Secret Keeper

        I am so sad reading this. This really causes me to think about my circumstances in many different ways. My children are all with me. I have walked away from my family though (parents, siblings, extended…) because of abuse and mistreatment in the past and present. They wouldn’t agree to even talk about it to try to heal from it. I miss them and wish they would accept me instead of hurt me. My sister is a drug addict and her daughter was taken from her and I adopted her out of foster care. She is still using drugs so I choose to not allow contact with her daughter. I wonder if she feels as you do…even though her circumstances are different. I hate the thought that she does, as I know she is hurting. My children are no longer seeing cousins and grandparents because of my choices and their refusal to reconcile. It’s sad. They miss their cousins. Will they resent me for that in the future? I don’t know. It’s very hard. I am so sorry about your situation. I am happy you have your daughter, but I hear your pain in the loss of your sons. It’s awful. I am so sorry you cannot see them. I hope someday you will.

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      2. Walter Singleton Post author

        Thank you for your comments. Your situation sounds like a very difficult one. It does sound like you’ve had to make a lot of difficult choices in a situation that really has no good answers.

        Would it be possible to allow your sister to have supervised contact with her daughter? Since you’re legally her parent, only you can decide what is safe and what’s not, but her having some contact does have advantages.
        1. Seeing her daughter might give your sister a good reason to work on her rehab.
        2. Children will always, eventually, want to know where they come from. A large part of our identity comes from knowing our biological parents.
        3. It would help your niece to understand why her mother doesn’t have custody, and would show her that you’ve done everything you could to keep the relationship alive.

        I understand some relationships are completely toxic, and there is no healthy way to keep them alive. But I believe that it is important to keep family relationships alive when we can, if only so that children can learn and see for themselves why sometimes contact should be minimal. I wish you and your niece the best in your life. Good luck on your journey.

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